You are the Problem... Deal with it!

Did that title TRIGGER you??  I hope it did because as I stated, YOU are the problem.

     I have learned so much over the last 9 months about myself and about others. What makes people tick? What motivates and what can debilitate? I never planned on becoming a leader or even a team trainer. NEVER in my plans ever but here I am doing it. I have got to tell you it can be an exhausting responsibility but also rewarding.

     So much ENERGY is spent on trying to make others see what you see in them. You will pour out everything you can, just to get a tiny spark. Just to see one small flame flicker in their eyes. At some point in our lives we seem to lose something vital. As a child we feel like we can do anything. We can be superman, unstoppable and can face anything we set out to do. What happens to us? What changes??

       As children many of us lack the "excuse" emotion. When we do something great we get celebrated by those around us and that is all we really need to feel accomplished. We do not determine our self worth or value based on the 10 mins we had to sit in time out for tripping the bully on the playground. We do not dwell on our punishments or failures, instead we accept our wrongs, and the punishments and then we go back to the playground. As adults, we over analyze every single action and reaction. We hit replay on one moment a thousand times!? WHY?? Because we are looking for the loophole, the escape, the excuse that it was not our faults. We are looking to be blameless and a innocent victim. We can not understand how our actions could possibly lead to X reaction.

      You are the problem so you need to deal with it. Now before you think that I have already excluded myself from this little rant, think again. I am guilty! I know 100% I over think EVERYTHING!!

      As a stay at home parent I have observed the behavior mentioned above. It was not until I became a "leader" that I truly began to see how much of a problem I had personally. 

     Any good leader will CARE about you and your goals. The problem is some of us care too much. We care MORE than you care yourself. What we intend to be education and encouragement can sometimes turn into life support.

     We all need to wake up and reclaim our own strength. Its estimated that 1% of people who set out to become successful actually reach that goal. That means 99% of our society can not overcome the fears and challenges that arise on the way to success. 99% of society will accept FAILURE as a victory. "I tried it just was not for me." Reality is YOU did NOT even scratch the surface of TRY. 

    

     WE ARE PROGRAMMED TO AVOID PAIN

   We are designed to run away from things painful and uncomfortable which is a huge factor when it comes to being successful. I have researched this topic of "Success" and one of the most interesting things I have read was "The 5 Second Rule." To be successful you must MOVE, WORK, TAKE ANY ACTION that can propel you forward. It absolutely will without a doubt be uncomfortable at times. You will face fears, battles and even pain. This is what separates the 1% from the 99% and ultimately the successful from the quitters.

      Sometimes we have these thoughts of doing something incredible. Its a moment of wisdom that could really change the course of our lives. When these moments arise many of us almost instantly decide not to do it. What ever the 'it' may be we choose to toss the crazy idea away. We flood it out of our brains with a thousand excuses. 

I have No time.

I can not do what they do.

I am just tired.

     This can all happen within 5 seconds. Those who break that 5 second rule and actually begin to move they find freedom. Our BRAINS work against us if we do not physically move within 5 seconds When you stop and think, when you hesitate, and when you feel uncertain, you are signaling to your brain that something’s wrong.

     Your brain will automatically kill the dream or idea in order to protect you. Protect you how exactly?By keeping you from doing anything that feels scary, hard, or uncertain.It thinks it’s keeping you safe when in fact it is keeping you from growing as a person, stretching yourself in your business, and fully experiencing life.

The Scary, Hard, Uncertain things in life is what Dreams are built from!! STOP standing in your own way! Stop depending on your leaders or mentors to carry you over the finish line. Make the choice to take action and crush excuses. If you need your hand held every step of your life you will never learn to walk let alone, Run.